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intensifying adjective, late 19c., from present participle of flame (v.). Meaning "glaringly homosexual" is homosexual slang, 1970s (along with flamer (n.) "conspicuously homosexual man"); but flamer "glaringly conspicuous person or thing" (1809) and flaming "glaringly conspicuous" (1781) are much earlier in the general sense, both originally with reference to "wenches."
Blatantly homosexual, esp in an effeminate way; swish: in hiding the fact that Babe Ruth and Lou Gehrig were flaming homosexuals (1970s+ Homosexuals)adverb
Very •Used as an intensifier, usually preceded by ''so'': I can't believe he'd be so flaming stupid (1895+)noun
(also flamage) The use of rude, strong, obscene, etc, language on a computer bulletin board, in computer mail, etc •This sort of verbal license is said to be common and apparently to be an effect of the medium itself (1980s+ Computer)