When Cato still refused, the suitor then asked Cato for Cato's own wife.
I find both “admirer” and “suitor” to be presumptuous and one-sided.
Soni and Goodman attribute the complicated story to the shared Stoic philosophy of Cato and the suitor.
late 14c., "follower, disciple," from Anglo-French seutor or directly from Late Latin secutor, from past participle stem of sequi "to follow" (see suit (n.)). Meaning "one who seeks (a woman) in marriage" is from 1580s.