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"an abrasive substance," 1853, from abrasive (adj.).
1805, from Latin abras-, past participle stem of abradere (see abrasion) + -ive. Figurative sense of "tending to provoke anger" is first recorded 1925. Related: Abrasively; abrasiveness.
abrasive a·bra·sive (ə-brā'sĭv, -zĭv)adj. Causing abrasion. n. A material used to produce abrasion.